“If you had to choose between money and happiness, which would you pick?”

That was a question somebody posted in the OTW Facebook community over the weekend. It’s a bit hypothetical I’ll grant you, but there was still plenty of lively discussion and a ton of different beliefs out in force. 

> Is there any point in having loads of money if you’re unhappy? 

> Can you be happy if you don’t have the money to pay for the basics in life? 

> Is happiness even the goal… shouldn’t we really be aiming forfulfilment? 

Emotive

Money is such an emotive subject and we all hold beliefs about it.

How hard it is to come by, whether you should spend it or save it, whether or not it’s the root of all evil…  

It was the kind of question that everybody could chip in on, so needless to say the post gathered a lot of momentum.

What I took away most of all from the thread, was how much our beliefs show up in our lives.

A few examples from the thread

Have a read through the following comments and see if you can differentiate between beliefs and undisputable truth:

1) ’You can’t buy happiness’ 

2) ‘True happiness takes self-love which isn’t easy’ 

3) ’You can be happy without money’ 

3) ’The more money you have the more you want’ 

4) ’If you seek money you will be forever seeking it… people with more always want more’ 

5) ’Happiness is a choice’ 

6) ’If you were happy all the time it would become the norm’ 

7) ’Having enough money to pay the bills effects our happiness’ 

Universal truths

You may agree with some of these and strongly disagree with others. 

There is no universal truth about money and happiness. 

We usually have most of our beliefs about money dialled in by the age of 7, and then as we get older our experiences fill in the rest of the blanks.

Beliefs aren’t usually something we consciously subscribe to. 

But they are there all the same, ticking away in the background, narrating our lives.

Just like they’re there for health and fitness, weight loss, relationships, success, career and everything else in our world. 

Beliefs help ups make sense

Beliefs aren’t bad things to have.  

We need them to help us make sense of the world around us so we don’t have to keep figuring out the same things over and over again. 

But if there’s something limiting you in your life, like believing you can’t lose weight, you always fail, or everybody is better than you? 

Then it might just be worth examining the beliefs underpinning the stories you’re telling yourself to see how much of it is actually true.