“I know what to do, but I just don’t do it!”
Do you ever find yourself mindlessly polishing off a packet of biscuits and then immediately wonder why you just did that?
Or plan a trip to the gym but then do every other super important job in the house first, like cleaning the oven or organising your collection of recipe books… until you’ve run out of time?
They say all you need is a plan and a desire and you can accomplish anything.
But even with both of those things, you and I both know that it’s not always enough.
‘Self-sabotaging’ your best intentions is so frustrating because it just doesn’t make any sense. You’re on top of everything else so why can’t you just get this under control?
It might be scant consolation to hear that it’s perfectly normal to push back against changing well ingrained behaviours.
There are all sorts of things going on inside our heads that we’re oblivious to, with the sole intention of keeping us safe.
After all, if you can’t survive the present moment what’s the point in even thinking about how you might thrive at some point in the future?
The more the self-sabotage happens, the more powerful your Stories become about how you ‘can’t do this’, or that you ‘don’t have the will power’. So what’s the point in trying, eh? Back to eating all of the things, binge watching Netflix every night and feeling a tad more self-loathing than you did before.
This continues until it once again becomes too painful to remain where you are and so you begin to make a concerted effort to get back on the wagon. And round and round we go, gradually becoming more exasperated at the perpetual loop of failure and broken promises.
Frustrating as it is, the good news is that it’s possible to cut in on this cycle.